Resilience Before & After Burn Out
Sustainable Beats “Resilient” Every Time!!
Burning Out Early From Over Powering
A lot of business owners feel like no matter where you are, no matter what you are doing, you should be somewhere else putting out fires and getting a handle on what is falling apart over there. If you have felt this before, you are definitely in the right place!
This was obviously me back when I first became a construction electrical contractor.. That feeling of needing to be in too many places at once is exhausting, and by itself is enough to burn someone out, let alone trying to do all of the work that needs to be done.
For business leaders who are already working hard
The answer can not always be more horsepower, more force, more voltage!
When you add more voltage to a light bulb it will burn very brightly for a very short time. When you add to much pressure to a support it will snap.
Everything changed when I stopped trying to micro manage every project, and started thinking of myself as Leader, Trainer, and Mentor.
Then instead of hiring1 people who I could train to be like me, I hired people I could trust to accomplish clear objectives, and ask good clarifying questions where they needed more clarity to succeed.
If we are being honest, part of us knows lack of trust leads to all kinds of unhealthy and unproductive behaviors!
Including
Micro Managing
Over Communicating
Under Communicating
Making everything URGENT
Bird Dogging…
I could go on. Lack of trust keeps us from giving our team the information, training, context to succeed. Lack of trust says organization crippling things like
“If you want it done “right“ you have to do it yourself!”
On the other hand, trust is the biggest preventer of burnout and the highest attractor of success! Trust your team to do things as well as you could because they have the tools, the training, the understanding, and the direction to do it. Eventually you will have teams that are better than you in every single area, and you will get to trust that your value as a leader is greater than being the best builder, electrician, or rocket surgeon on earth!
Trust yourself to do tomorrows work tomorrow, without taking on ridiculous and unreasonable expectations of doing it ALL today.
Trust yourself to fully unplug from work to give yourself the gift of returning fully recovered, rested, and rejuvenated!
Trust yourself to communicate effectively and your team to understand.
Your people need this version of you so that they can perform their best! Not just believing in what you can do, but believing in the best versions of them until they grow into another better best!
Resilience is being used to mean recklessly different things in the wild west of todays internet. Where it means sustainable, conscious, intentional, it will make you better, more content, more satisfied. Where it means hustle, treat yourself like a machine and ignore your limitations rather than growing your abilities, aware nesses and aptitudes it is doing more harm than good.
Remember,
Trust Yourself enough to Rest
Trust Your Team enough to let them succeed!
You do not have to do this alone!
Terry Barkman works as a coach and consultant with
Leaders to Develop
Teams who work together
so that your organization can sustainably
grow without burning you out!
He is Thought Leader, Speaker, Author, and
connoisseur of run on sentences. His upcoming book
Terry-Fied goes deeper into how to get relational leadership working
for your team!
Terry Speaks ~ Photo Credit Anita Alberto
